How To Contact Your Ex After A Break Up

It’s not always easy to get your ex back and one of the hardest parts is actually contacting them for the first time after the break up. If you contact your ex and get thing wrong it can put you in a worse position so it’s important to get it right. The best approach is a subtle and slow one. First off it is better to give them space for a few weeks before you contact them.

This will give time for any animosity in the relationship to pass over. A simple email or text message is enough when the time comes to contact them, you don’t want to over do it. People often miss or don’t read emails so I think a text message would be better. Most people check their phone much more often that their emails and this is why a text message is better.

Just ask them how they are in the message, keep it simple and don’t put any pressure on them. If they reply then great, just see how things go and then eventually ask them if they would like to meet up for a catch up chat. If they don’t answer then leave it for a few days and then send them another message. The reason you need to leave it a few days is because you will just look desperate if you send too many messages too soon.

When some people don’t get a response within the first hour they lose the plot and start sending more messages. If your ex comes back to their phone and finds one message from you it’s enough to tell them that you’re still interested. If they find lots of messages from you it tells them you’re desperate.

If a week goes by and you still hear nothing then the best course of action would be to call your ex. This should be the final attempt at getting in touch with them. If they still ignore you it’s time to take the hint that the relationship is over and it’s time to walk away. Not every relationship can be saved and while it’s not a nice to go through it’s something that you will just have to learn to live with.